pregnancy

She thought she was cheating on me

I’m having an affair!

One of my long-term lovely wonderful practice members said that to me recently.

"I didn't know what to say to you. I feel like I'm having an affair. I'm cheating on you!"

She was in with her 6-week-old baby for their weekly adjustment.

"Oh, I feel so bad!"

Yup. She was serious.

I could tell that she genuinely felt bad.

"I'm taking her to the osteopath next week."

OMG.

WHAT?

That's what she feels bad about?

"Oh don't be silly," is what I said back to her.

I can understand her feelings because she's been coming to see me for her adjustments way back when she was pregnant with her first child.

With all my long-term practice members, it's an honour and a joy to adjust people for such an extended period of time.

That's the practice I've built.

Family Wellness.

For life.

That's what it's all about.

And I also know that there are many other experts that are excellent and able to help many people as well.

Including osteopaths.

Most of the osteopaths I've met are great.

They see many babies as well and they do similar things that I do.

That's because the practices are quite similar.

It's important to do what you think and feel is best for yourself and your children.

Who I am is just another expert who will always serve you and give the best care, advice, and support possible.

People ask me questions all the time, and I will always asses the situation and give my best most knowledgable advice possible.

If I don't know the answer, then I'll say, "I don't know."

My practice member wasn't cheating on me. 

No affair happening here.

Plus, she was being honest! 

That's not having an affair.

She didn't even go to the other expert yet, so no affair even happened!

The bottom line is, if chiropractic care helps your life and health, and you choose me, then I'll always be available to help and serve you with the best of my abilities.

My passion and mission is to help as many babies, children, and families to live their most healthy and extraordinary lives.

I believe that chiropractic care is a huge component of achieving that.

Osteopathy, massage, physiotherapy, acupuncture, or other body healing modalities all play a part in helping achieve health, too.

It's how and what you find to help your body heal itself, where it's designed to reorganise to higher levels of health.

Chiropractic will always be a part of my life for me, for my health as well as my family's.

I definitely need other expert help to keep me energised and fully functional.

And I also have a much-loved one that brings me a whole lotta pleasure 3-4 times a week:

Red wine!

Cheers!

See you at your next adjustment!

— Dr MaryAnne

 

I am broody

Many friends of mine tell me that I should have a fourth.

Baby, that is.

Another one?

Nope.

I'm done.

In fact, when I was preggers with my third child (who just turned six, by the way), I had a very direct and concrete feeling that I did NOT want to have another.

I was crystal clear DONE at three.

BUT.

There's an ongoing problem.

In my line of work, seeing many newborns regularly, holding them, adjusting them - it really messes with my head. 

And heart.

And my ovaries.

But again, when I think about having another newborn, I quickly snap out of it (most of the time) and land back on the ground.

Reality.

This really tested me though over the summer holidays.

I took a lot of time off to be with my family, driving out to France, frolicking on the beach and ocean in the Atlantic, drinking lots of wine, and eating lots of cheese and French baguettes. 

What more could a girl want?

Yum.

Anyway, my last trip wasn't REALLY a holiday. Well, it was, but the main purpose was to help my sister.

I was her birth partner.

For those of you who have had a baby, you know that the last couple weeks of pregnancy, especially if you have a two-year-old running around, it's so exhausting. 

Just take my word for it.

So I was there to help out my sister at the end of her pregnancy while we waited for her to go into labour.

And just as I predicated, she went into labour in the middle of my stay with her. 

Very convenient.

And she went into labour at a very sensible hour right after we all woke up in the morning.

Labour was quick, easy-peasy, and she gave birth to healthy hefty baby boy.

Then I finally got to hold him.

After all that time waiting!

And then the broodiness kicked in.

Oh boy.

He was so delicious to hold and snuggle with. 

Newborns are magical.

One of the most common things we think about when holding a brand new baby, just a couple hours old, is trying to comprehend that this baby was JUST inside another human being living and growing.

That never ceases to amaze me.

And these newborns hold so much purity and potential inside of them.  

That's what they smell like!

I had about nine more days with my sister to help her with her new baby, and I really savoured every minute with them.

(Her husband threatened to kidnap me because I was such a huge help in keeping the baby from crying.)

As the days went by being around my sister's family that went from three to four, I also missed my crazy gang back home.

My kids are much older than my sister's and it's like a whole other stage that I'm in with them.

Yet, it's bittersweet.

Each time I held my sister's baby (or played with her two-year-old), a new feeling came over me stronger and stronger, realising something.

It's the concept that we parents get told by our elders all the time:

"They grow too fast."

Of course, conceptually, it's easy to understand.

And I see it before my eyes with my own children.

But it never hit me the way it did while being away from my kids for over two weeks.

I knew that each day my children were growing and changing, just like all kids, and I was missing those moments.

I wasn't there to do all the things that I normally take for granted.

As mothers, we feel like we're running on a hamster wheel just pushing along trying to keep everyone happy, managing schedules, dinner, laundry, friends, our partners, our relationships.

And it goes on and on, every day.

Being away from my children for 16 days, AND being with my sister's family gave me the opportunity to see things from a completely different perspective. One that made me feel nostalgic knowing what my sister was going through with two children and adapting to everything, as well as another perspective making me see how every single minute of our babies' lives are opportunities to make them feel loved, appreciated, and secure.

When I came home last week, I was able to hug my kids with that new perspective, cherishing so much more how grateful I am that I have them, and that they are who they are, happy and healthy.

NOW I get the concept fully in a renewed way, so much so that I've taken more time to be with them, rather than constantly try to find some of my own free time.

One day I'll be 85, and I definitely don't want to find myself sitting there alone, in my favourite comfortable chair feeling regret about my children, wishing that I had spent more time with them.

I'll never get these days back.

Even now my memory is skittish, not remembering certain moments of my children's lives. Those little detailed things I did like how I potty trained my daughter, or when did they first sleep through the night.

Now I know that I don't want to miss anything.

My eyes have opened.

Which is why I've changed my time and schedule in my practice to fewer hours in order to put my family fully as a priority.

(Don't worry, I'm still adjusting and I can't wait to adjust you all!)

I know at times when the kids are driving me crazy I'll think, "What was I thinking?" I'll want to get away and escape.

But, the difference is that I'll realise that this moment, right now, I get to hug my children more and anytime I want when I spend more time with them.

And when I'm 85, I'll think back and say to myself, "It was alllll worth it."

(Be sure to keep checking my schedule to book yourself in for your next adjustment.)

— Dr MaryAnne

When I get hexed

'Hexed'.

Do you know what that means?

It's when someone says something to you and you get this GRRRRR reaction.

A mixture of offence, frustration, annoyance, and a little of anger.

You know, that kind of feeling that you can't shake?

Anyway, recently, I was having a conversation with someone who just had a baby.

She came up to me to ask me about chiropractic for babies.

She had heard that this is what I do, and wanted to know more.

So I told her that newborns should have their systems (head, neck, spine, and its alignment) checked.

I asked her, 

"Doesn't it make sense that after the paediatrician checks the heart, lungs, ears, eyes, fingers and toes, that the spine and nervous system gets a run-through?"

All newborns should have a routine chiropractic spinal check up.

Ask any mother how her birth was.

She'll say anything from it was crazy and scary, and insane, to something like, oh, it was so quick and the baby shot out of me.

And everything in between.

What they will all say is that it was definitely intense.

Well guess who else it's intense for?

That's right.

The BABY.

That baby needs to squeeeeeze through a very narrow outlet (vaginal or c-section) after being squished in the mummy's tummy for the last few weeks of growing in there.

So, doesn't it make sense to make sure that we get the baby's spine checked by a paediatric chiropractor?

My rule of thumb is that a baby should get checked within 7-10 days post birth.

And then, they should get checked 2-4 times per month.

Those babies do a lot of growing each week, just like they did in the womb.

So when the woman who asked me about babies and chiropractic, she told me that she didn't think she could do it because her husband was anti-chiropractic.

Huh?

Anti-chiropractic?

Then I asked her, 

"Has your husband ever seen a chiropractic adjustment on a baby?"

She said, "No, I don't think so."

That's when I got hexed.

My mind went GRRRRR.

It wasn't my job to argue with her in that moment.

That accomplishes nothing.

All I could do was tell her what I know, which is that babies and children who have their spines checked and adjusted regularly are usually the healthiest kids around.

They develop well, with little or no delays.

The sleep better.

They aren't ill and poorly.

They don't need antibiotics.

And they are usually happy and well-behaved kids!

Don't believe me?

Ask me and I'll put you in contact with a mum whose child is a chiro-kid (a kid that's been adjusted regularly most of their life).

I'm not hexed anymore.

Rant is over.

See you at your next adjustment!

Book here.

— Dr MaryAnne

Poop in the water

Lately my practice has been crawling with pregnant women.

Well, they're actually not literally crawling around (although it would probably be good for them and the baby since it helps with baby positioning!).

They're comfortably laying down on my special pregnancy table where they relax, breathe, and get their spines and pelvis adjusted.

(They sometimes fall asleep and snore too!)

I love it!

When I adjust a pregnant woman, I'm connecting with her energy focused on her stress levels, tension in her spine and around her pelvis, as well as the tension in the uterus.

One amazing thing that happens is that I inevitably get so connected and somehow bonded with her baby.

It's fun adjusting pregnant women because I can tell that the babies love the adjustment too.

They move, kick, and seem to go through the motions as I adjust their mother.

It's fascinating.

One time I had a pregnant woman that I started adjusting in her 2nd trimester, and she came in every week until the birth.

Towards the end of the pregnancy, around the 38th week, I just sensed how happy, safe, and secure he was inside his little sac in the uterus.

And I just told the mother that I had a feeling that he would be 'born in his bag'.

(Please understand that this, my 'feeling' and my senses about this woman's birth outcome was unscientific, and also completely unrelated to my skill in chiropractic adjusting of the pregnant spine and pelvis.)

A few weeks later when her baby was born, she texted me,

"My baby boy was born yesterday. You were right - he was born in the sac!"

Babies born in the sac or caul happens infrequently, so I was surprised that my senses were right!

The most amazing and gratifying part of adjusting women is when I receive the text informing me that they had their baby and it was a wonderful and straight forward birth with little or no interventions.

And then, of course, I get to meet the baby and check and adjust them too!

I get very emotional when my pregnant mums achieve the birth they always envisioned to have.

It's how it's supposed to be!

(One time a mother texted me sharing that her birth was wonderful, in the birthing pool. Then she scared me because she said that there was one thing she wishes didn't happen - she pooped in the water when she was pushing! Shit happens!)


Women's bodies were made to do this, and I'm certain that chiropractic care helps their bodies to be in their optimal state and position to enjoy a comfortable and manageable pregnancy, as well as a successful birth experience.

Chiropractic care can start for women BEFORE they get pregnant, and continue throughout their pregnancy from the moment they discover they are pregnant!

Please help me share this with more women.

See you soon!

— Dr MaryAnne



 

My kids speaks this strange alien language that I don't understand

As someone who was raised in America, I've always been amazed at how easy it is to travel to a completely different country within a couple hours from London.

Plane or train.

Doesn't matter.

It's very cool.

A two-hour train ride in America, and you're still in the same State (most of the time). 

I can't believe more Londoners don't take advantage of living so close to Paris!

It's so great to be able to hop on a fast train, and then BAM, you're in frogland.

Oui! Oui!

C'est magnifique!

Anyway, on the very crowded train, I met this very sweet young mother with her toddler daughter.

I couldn't help but offer my assistance because there was a jumble of seats with a big family of overgrown loud teenagers, and I could tell that this mother just wanted a comfortable seat with her little girl.

So I managed to talk the other people into rearranging their seating plan, and the young mother was able to sit next with us in the quattro seating (with the table in the middle).

Much better outcome.

She was very grateful.

It was simple to do. 

Little effort.

Big payout.

Stressless journey with children.

(Is that really possible?)

We had a lovely ride into Paris.

My kids played with the little girl, and everyone was happy.

I was probably the happiest because my eldest kept on talking in the strangest accent. I think she picked it up on YouTube. She contorts her face and has this annoying rhythm, tone, and intonation. 

Very strange.

So I basically ignored her. I had to. Instead, I focused on having a nice conversation with the young mother sitting next to me.

She asked me if I work and what I do.

Sure enough she became very interested when I told her that my special interest is with babies' and children's spinal health.

Most people have no clue what chiropractic paediatrics is.

"What does it mean for a child to go have a chiropractic check-up?"

I explained to her how important it is for all newborns to have their spines check shortly after birth.

Doesn't a paediatrician check the baby's heart, breathing, ears, genitals, etc?

How about one of the most important organs in the body?

The brain and the spine - the central nervous system?

This mother was totally fascinated.

"Yes, that makes sense!"

She even explained to me that her baby was born with forceps because she was twisted in a strange position stuck in the birth canal.

(Do you know how often I hear mothers say this?)

Listen, I love what I do. And if I can speak to one mother a day to show them how important it is to have her child's spine checked, then I feel that I've helped make a positive change in that child's (and mother's) life.

Because a healthy child is what we all want.

Healthy children lead to a happier world for the future.

Do you get it?

Good.

Now, I'm off to go eat some delicious French food.

Au revoir et a bientot!

See you next week for your adjustment!

(Don't forget to book in your £25 massage! Only ten days left at this price.)

— Dr MaryAnne

I have a new baby

No, not that kind of baby.

It's a new project.

Something that's been brewing in my mind for a while.

(Not in my womb.)

My trainer probably sensed it, which is why he invited me to co-host his podcast which is more about fitness and many topics related to fitness and health. 

But it's mainly HIS podcast.

This baby is mine.

It's all about women and motherhood, pregnancy, birth, and everything related to it. 

My inspiration was from all the women in my life, friends, patients, teachers, mentors, and family who have shared their experience with me about motherhood, as well as their choice not to be a mother. 

There are all walks of life with motherhood, and with everything out there for information, I thought this would be a great platform to inform women, help them and support them through their journey.

So, check it out, subscribe, and let me know what you think!

www.youredoinggreatmum.com

— Dr MaryAnne

If only I could get my hands on you

Yesterday I sent an email with a video of me adjusting a child.

I've started to become good friends with his mother and what warms my heart is that I know that as long as they are in my life, that kid (and his siblings) will probably get regular adjustments for the rest of his life.

What breaks my heart is when I hear about children who are suffering from health issues, some common and some more complicated, and if I could only get my hands on them to check and adjust their spines, their health would probably improve.

This morning a woman I've known for a while was telling me about her 8-year-old son who had to go to the A&E for some complications with his brain.

(I won't get into the gory details here.)

I was surprised and also very curious about what happened.

She explained it to me blow by blow.

So, my doctor-thinking-cap went on and I started to ask her everything, starting from birth.

She told me that the birth was difficult, especially at the end, and pushing took a while.

Then she noticed that when he was 7-months, there were already problems with his muscle development.

She asked the GP if it was normal.

They said yes.

Then at age 2, she noticed that he didn't speak very much.

The GP told her it was normal for bilingual families to have children who have speech delay.

But she knew something wasn't quite right.

He also started walking later than most children.

She also noticed that he was clumsy.

Then at age 4 he developed a squint.

More and more, she noticed something subtle, but the GPs always told her it was nothing to worry about.

"He'll grow out of it."

But her mummy instincts always sounded the alarms.

What's a mother to do?

I didn't say this to her, but I wish I had seen this boy at birth! Or even at age 7-months when he was a baby showing signs of interference in the nervous system.

And now, this boy at 8-years-old, the mother was proven right. 

The neurosurgeons had to do a relatively minor procedure in his brain.

Finally, the neurosurgeons, with the clear tests showing he had an issue, took action to correct the problem.

Thank god they found the problem in time.

But, was this avoidable?

If I did have the chance to adjust this child since birth (like I believe all children should), would he still have developed this problem?

I can't answer that because we will never know.

But I bet that regular adjustments would probably have helped in some way.

Luckily, he's still young at 8.

Now that I've told his mother about chiropractic and what it can do to help his nervous system and spine to clear up any interferences in his system, we can see how the regular adjustments makes a positive improvement.

He's still going to the neurologist and the paediatrician for tests regularly.

Yes, that's important.

But I have a strong feeling that this boy will heal much better and faster if his spine and nervous system are in optimal condition from the regular adjustments.

This is such a passion of mine.

I wish I could somehow tell everyone about this.

But I can't just shove it down people's throats.

That would probably scare off a lot of people.

They'd think I'm a crazy person.

I need your help.

Tell people about chiropractic.

Share your story with people.

Tell them about your child getting chiropractic care.

I'm convinced that it's the good that will make a positive difference in this world.

Thank you!

Have a good night!

See you at your next adjustment (don't wait until you're in pain!).

— Dr MaryAnne


 

No, dear, the baby isn't delivered by a bird

When I was pregnant with my second baby, my daughter asked how the baby would come out. And I told her that I had to push her out of the vagina (AKA the birth canal).

(Please refer to previous post if not clear about this anatomy.)

Shock and horror ensued.

"You mean the baby just doesn't appear? Who takes it out?"

"I do, sweetie. I deliver my baby, just like I delivered you."

In my practice with pregnant women, something always happens:

There's a moment during an adjustment with a pregnant woman when she goes into a very calm state, she's totally zoned out, almost as if she's asleep, and her energy is so beautiful.

Her breath is deep, slow, and peaceful.

All her tension is nearly gone.

And it's as if I can also hear her heartbeat and her baby's heartbeat.

It's a magical moment.

I love it.

And then they get snapped out of it because she has to turn over so I can assess her front pelvis.

They always literally peel themselves up off the table and the look on their face is as if I've injected them with some potent euphoria-inducing drug.

Actually, it's not too far off what's really happening.

The difference is that this 'drug' is coming from within their bodies and that euphoric feeling is what pregnant women can access when they are in labour.

When a pregnant woman contacts me because she has heard about chiropractic wellness care for pregnancy, or she's in severe pain in her pelvis or back, I'm so happy because I know she's about to experience something amazing.

All of the pregnant women (yes, 100%) that have come to my practice for pregnancy chiropractic care have responded exceptionally well with fantastic results, giving them a much easier pregnancy that they can enjoy as much as possible.

Also, many women hear about pre-conception health because they are trying to get pregnant and they want to ensure that their bodies are at optimal healthy levels to start with a healthy pregnancy.

Women who start with regular chiropractic care pre-conception usually conceive within three months of care.

Some longer, but most before.

And once they are pregnancy, they continue with regular chiropractic adjustments and they are able to experience pregnancy with no pain, or very little discomfort.

When I was pregnant for each of my three children, I wasn't the type to bask in the joys of a glowing and glorious pregnancy. 

I was also under regular chiropractic care, and I had a very easy pregnancy.

But I didn't LOVE it.

Most women will say that pregnancy is not comfortable. 

The body changes tremendously and very rapidly.

That's usually not very comfortable.

How would you like it if you gained a huge amount of weight all over in only 5, 6, 7 months, and most of the weight is in the front, like a bowling ball hanging there.

Here's the truth: you feel like a whale and it's not fun moving around.

I have no doubt in my mind that pregnancy chiropractic care from pre-pregnancy, the first trimester, and throughout the entire 9-10 months is what makes the whole experience much better.

There is another woman in my practice that got pregnant relatively quickly considering very tricky circumstances, and I'm certain that's because she was having her regular chiropractic adjustments.

And although she experienced severe nausea in the beginning of her pregnancy, she is sure that she has been able to feel more comfortable from the beginning than if she wasn't receiving her weekly adjustments.

She said she wouldn't be able to live without them.

And I totally agree.

Very few women know about pregnancy chiropractic care.

Chiropractic care during pregnancy is essential for having a healthy pregnancy where you're able to feel well, and also experience a smooth birth with fewer interventions during birth.

If you know anyone who is pregnant or who wants to be pregnant and wants to have a positive experience throughout her pregnancy, then tell them about chiropractic care. 

It doesn't matter if they don't live in London and they can't come to me.

There are fantastic chiropractors all over the world who have experience in pregnancy chiropractic care.

Spread the word. Help me educate more women!

See you soon - and don't forget about your free Christmas adjustment next Tuesday!

— Dr MaryAnne.