success

Growing and changes

(For those of you who don't have time to read this very awesome post, here's the main point of it: Now, if you bought a Package of 12 adjustments a long time ago, and you have not been to my practice for your adjustment in the last year or more (and you were not aware of the year-long policy), I will honor your remaining package for one more month, until the 15th June 2019. Keep reading the whole email to find out more.)

During the past few months, lots of uncomfortable growth has been happening to me and my practice. 

The outcome is generally all good! But it's not an easy ride.

Since January, I've been traveling a lot, going to many conferences and seeing private clients in New York and Paris. 

I've always dreamed of seeing clients from all over the world where every single day I'm adjusting someone's spine.

The other day my friend saw a photo of me from my Instagram and it was one of my latest posts of me adjusting someone. 

She said, "Don't you ever have a day off?"

Well, actually, no. 

But I don't look at this as a 'job'. 

Sure, I'll admit, there are some days (it's rare) when I'm so tired that I just can't and won't adjust anyone. 

And when I feel like that, I just tell my husband and kids, "I'm not adjusting anyone today, so don't ask!"

(I have to speak to them quite firmly.)

Basically, I'm adjusting spines almost every day, and it's fantastic. 

It doesn't matter where I am in the world. Someone has a spine that needs to be adjusted.

And lately, it's been more and more these past few months, which is awesome because I'm actually fulfilling my dream!

The growth has been challenging, but I'm doing it. 

I'm making it happen.

What's also happening is that there are some people who used to come to my practice over 2 years ago who bought a package of 12 adjustments, used up only 4 or 5, and then for some reason, didn't come back.

Naturally and understandably, knowing they bought a package of 12 adjustments with me (and knowing they didn't use up all 12), they expect to be able to come back to claim their adjustments.

But it was over 2 years ago since they bought the package.

Until recently, all my packages had a one year expiration date. 

But I noticed that I didn't communicate that clearly.

Now, the package of 12 has a six month expiration date.

Most people use up all 12 because the purpose of the package and the time limit is to encourage you to stick with your care plan so that your body can advance, progress, and improve towards better health.

So, here are the rules when you sign up for ANY long-term plan with me.

  1. Commit to the care plan. If you want to make a change in your life and your health, don't expect long-lasting changes to magically occur within three months. Anything under three months is unrealistic. How long does it take for a tree to grow?

  2. Consistency is (almost) more important than frequency. Once you commit to your care plan, stay consistent with it. So, for example, if it takes you 1 hour to get here, you might commit to come once a week for a double session. Some people do this and they get good results. If that's the best you can do (because of the distance and stress of your journey), then stick with it. Stay consistent.

  3. Be patient. It takes time. Have you, or do you know anyone who has had braces for their teeth? How long does it take for teeth to straighten out? Or, if you are learning a new language, how often do you practice, and do you expect to be fluent in a few weeks? No. Because anything in life for positive long-lasting change to happen takes time. What's that thing they say - it's takes 10,000 hours to because an expert in something. Be an expert in health. Be patient.

  4. Stay focused on the goal. Be determined. I have had many very chronically ill people walk into my practice hanging on to the last bit of hope for a normal life. A normal life! Basic needs. Sleep well, eat and digest food well, be able to have enough energy to get up and go to work, enjoy a social life, have a family, go on a holiday, and be able to enjoy the things that you love. Isn't that pretty basic? These chronically ill people are seriously determined. Because if you don't have your health for a 'normal' life, what the hell do you have?

These rules are there so that you and your family can be successful in getting healthier.

They are very simple.

Anything outside of these rules, good results cannot be expected.

By far, the people who stick with these rules notice very solid, good positive results ranging from simply having no pain and better mobility, to achieving extraordinary transformative experiences in their lives.

Who doesn't want that?!

Now, if you bought a Package of 12 adjustments a long time ago, and you have not been to my practice for your adjustment in the last year or more (and you were not aware of the year-long policy), I will honor your remaining package for one more month, until the 15th June 2019. 

After that, sorry! I want to see your fabulous spine, so come in, get adjusted and get invigorated back to connecting with your awesome body!

Book your adjustment NOW. 

See you soon!

— Dr MaryAnne

Shyt, Shower, Shave

The man in my bed waking up next to me this morning AKA My Port Drinker AKA my husband, let out a big sigh as he rolled over to turn off his alarm.

And then I sighed.

I sighed because he sighed.

I don't like it when he sighs.

It's like a trigger that goes off inside me when I hear a hint of a grumble from him.

"What?" I said.

"Gotta go to work."

Yup.

Waking up and breathing is work.

Arising from a night's sleep, and then all the bombardment of thoughts in your head - that's a lotta work too.

A few weeks ago, we bought a new car.

Actually, it's not new at all.

It's a really old car.

But new for us.

And it works fine.

Part of the risk of buying a used car is that you don't actually know how well it runs.

Until you drive it a couple days, and then discover that it has enough problems that causes it not to pass its MOT.

(insert eye-rolling emoji here)

So, after a whole lotta car drama (long story), it's been in the car garage for the last 72 hours.

I am without a car.

I know. 

I'm spoiled.

But that's not the point here.

Not having a car when you are very used to and dependent on having one in this corner of the world in Southwest Nappy-Valley London (is that what they call it in this region?), forces you to step off the hamster wheel and start engaging your brain differently.

When we're on that hamster wheel, like goes like this:

Open eyes.

Wake up.

What's the first thing you think about?

You gotta pee.

Toilet!

While on the toilet, mums are probably hearing their kids yelling and screaming, and your body starts groaning and twitching because your mind is racing more and more with all the things that you have to do that day.

What's next?

Your brain thinks, "Shower."

"Food."

"Kids need food."

"What's today?"

"Kids need to get dressed. Did I wash their uniform yesterday?"

Kiss hubby goodbye.

"Oh god, what time is it?"

"School drop-off."

And your brain just goes 'round and 'round the hamster wheel.

Day in, day out.

But wait - what happens when your car breaks down?

Something pushes you off that hamster wheel.

You actually have to engage your brain differently and make other plans.

Change your thoughts, change your actions, change your brain.


Take your morning route for example.

Just changing your journey causes you to think differently. 

You’re off the hamster wheel because you went a different way to work. 

Think about it - you see different people, make changes in your scenery, and shift your point of view.

You’re not on zombie auto-pilot, which is how most people look every day doing the same thing over and over again.

So even though I’ve been without a car these last couple days and it’s a bit annoying, I’m actually noticing new things about my daily routine.

New refreshing thoughts have popped in my mind.

I even went to eat at a lovely cafe and I sat there to people watch for a few minutes. 

That was fun!

So, give it a go - activate your brain to create new connections, new synapses, and more growth.

It keeps your brain younger and lets your body experience new surges of hormones, emotions, and thoughts.

If you haven’t been adjusted for a while, make that a change in your routine!

A chiropractic adjustment is good for your brain and body in so many ways!

See you soon!

— Dr MaryAnne

I'm moving!

Don't worry!

I'm only relocating 5 minutes away.

It's time to make a change.

Last week I announced that I was going to share some news.

Now I'm ready to tell you all!

It took me a few months to simmer with the idea, and once I made the decision, I knew it was the right thing to do.

I'm moving my practice back into my house.

In Streatham Hill.

Overall, this move is better for me.

The main reason is because I'm a mum.

And children don't stay little very long.

Time flies.

And my priority in life - the most important thing to me - is my family.

So, moving my practice back into my house is the best thing for me now so I can juggle my family life, and my practice life.

Ultimately, I know it's what will allow me to serve you better.

So, my new address for my practice is:

2 Wavertree Rd, SW2 3SW

My first day adjusting at the new address, my house, will be on Tuesday 30th January.

So, in two weeks when you come to your adjustment don't come to 44 Lancaster!

I'll be sending out texts to people to make sure there's no mistake. 

I wouldn't want you to come to Lancaster and I'm not there! 

That would stress you and me out.

I don't want that to happen.

Parking is not as easy since it's just near the Streatham Hill high street. 

But, if there isn't a car in front of my driveway, feel free to park right in front. No problem!

If you have any questions, please hit reply and let me know!

I'm looking forward to seeing all of you at my new practice location!

In the meantime, see you later on this week for your next adjustment.

— Dr MaryAnne
 

I want to understand more

You know that question kids like to answer, 

If you were to have one superhero power, what would it be?

Well, my super power would be to know exactly how people think, their beliefs, their values, and how they make their life choices. This kind of thing fascinates me. I'm always trying to figure out someone's thought process. 

This day and age, there are a lot of things to have an opinion about. There are so many things to keep us busy. There's really no reason for any of us to be bored. At the same time, with everything that's out there, there are so many different choices and lifestyles, we find so many people in so many 'camps'.

Liberal or Conservative?

Vegan or Paleo?

Masculine or Feminine?

Natural or Synthetic?

Fast food or Organic?

Running or Yoga?

Breastmilk or Formula?

Chiropractic or Medicine?

There's just so much out there. The lists goes on and on. And everybody's got an opinion about it.

I wanna know where and how and why people get their opinions and beliefs. Are people able to explore the 'other' side objectively? Can people hear other ideas and thoughts? Why are we so resistant to change? Why do people get so offended?

Recently I posted a question on my Facebook page about getting adjusted regularly. It became a threadhole of different opinions about why some people don't get chiropractic adjustments.

How do people not get regular chiropractic adjustments?

My motivation for the question was to understand and know what other people do if they've never gotten an adjustment. I suppose I could have elaborated on the question to help people understand where I was coming from. 

I've been getting adjusted since I was about 11-years-old. So, for the most part, I don't know what it's like NOT getting adjusted. It's been a part of my lifestyle for all this time, and it works for me. When I asked the question, I genuinely wanted to know what people do to stay healthy and feel good. I also wanted to know about those people who did indeed get adjusted in the past, but didn't continue. There were many views.

For the people who didn't continue, their answer was simple and understanding. They didn't have a good experience and never went to another one.

End of.

Most people answered that it's all about being able to afford regular chiropractic care.

Some of my colleagues out there didn't buy that answer. 

I agree.

Saying that you can't afford the regular chiropractic adjustments is baloney to me.

Please, stay with me. Lemme explain.

A large majority of people who come in to see me do so because they are in pain. 

They hurt.

They want to know why.

But the bottom line is, they want the pain to go away.

I tell people time and time again that pain is not the problem. The problem is the problem. But human beings don't automatically think of it that way. People feel pain, react, and then do something to make the pain go away.

But the 'something' is usually a drug or a massage, or they think it's because they slept wrong and eventually, the pain will go away on its own.

When someone comes in to see me, they expect me to 'fix' it and make the pain go away.

It doesn't work that way.

But, for argument's sake, let's go with this.

Most of the time, a series of chiropractic adjustments is very effective in 'making the pain go away'. 

Yes, that initial series is a certain amount of money.

But, once the pain goes away, assuming you're not going to do anything stupid like eat crap food every day, drink loads every day, stay up all night, and treat your body like it's a punching bag, you can actually improve your health and state of discomfort greatly by just making a few changes gradually.

(Just because you get older every year, doesn't mean that your health is supposed to get worse and worse.)

Once the pain goes away, it's MUCH easier to keep the pain away doing good things for your body and mind than to deal with damage control of severe debilitating pain.

Consider that part of that good routine includes regular chiropractic adjustments twice a month. 

And if money is an issue, an adjustment once a month is way better than nothing.

So, if good health is of high value to you in your life, is spending £30-£40 per month impossible?

I'm also talking to those people who come to me initially because of pain, and then they don't come back until the pain comes back. At first thought, when they didn't come back for their regular monthly adjustments (when I told them it's important for their bodies to continue to stay strong and well), I assumed they didn't like me anymore. I took it personally. 

But then when they called me a few months later and said, "I'm in agony. Please can I get adjusted?" That makes me realize that there's something else running the show.

In this case, it's not about the money, because when the pain comes back, it's usually worse than before, and the amount of adjustments needed exceeds the number of months in between the first and next time they visit my practice. So they end up paying more money. 

My view is, if people really knew how powerful just one adjustment is, they'd take time, energy, and their money to continue getting adjusted on a regular basis.

But, I also do recognise that this goes back to my original curiosity. Some people just don't agree with me. They don't think that chiropractic care is important. I understand that. I'm not expecting everyone to agree with me. That's the beauty in conversation.

What I understood from that thread on my Facebook page, people think that chiropractic is, at best, pain relief, and at worst, very dangerous.

It's an ongoing conversation I  have with people. And as the internet doesn't fail, one can find just about anything to support or refute anything we love.

So, what is it really about? 

The bottom line for me is that all I want to do is help people. I know how amazing chiropractic is, and how it can transform someone's life. I've seen it happen over and over again. My mission is to tell people and teach people more and more about chiropractic. 

For me, it's not an argument or debate. It's about purpose and my passion of what I do. I love people. I see greatness in people. Chiropractic is my vehicle in facilitating a person to finding the extraordinary in themselves.

Those obstacles of people's opinions and understanding of chiropractic will always be in front of me, but, I just keep going.

I'll keep helping people through chiropractic.

— Dr MaryAnne

 

 

 

Moms and CEOs

Generally, moms in the household run the show.

The other day during one of my training sessions with my training group, we were discussing how it's the moms who run the household.

(We're all women in the group.)

There were certain theories about that.

No one could point to the real reason why.

Or, we just all couldn't agree on the best answer.

My theory is based on the different brains that men and women have.

(Or if one person's brain is more female than male.)

It's all about the neurology of the person.

It's well known that women's brains use more synapses that cross the hemispheres.

When men use their brains, there are fewer synapses crossing the hemispheres, and more synapses in just one side.

Which leads me to my theory about women doing more jobs.

We have what is called 'diffuse awareness'. 

Men are single-focused.

Jobs and activities at home on the domestic front are often chaotic, and there's a plethora of things to do and to get done.

Kids are running around everywhere.

Laundry needs to get done.

The cat needs to be fed.

Dinner needs to be prepared (what the hell do I cook for dinner tonight).

And the list goes on and on.

Women are generally better are assessing and tackling these jobs at the same time.

Men need to do one thing at a time.

Of course, I'm generalising, but ask any woman and most of the time, she'll explain that she's the one who manages the household.

I don't even bother telling my husband what's happening until the morning of.

And when the kids are on a school break, I tell him, 

"Oh, by the way honey, it's half-term."

He looks at me with big open eyes like it's fresh news to him and he had no idea, let alone was it even on his radar of need-to-know-knowledge,

"Oh? Is it? Ok. What are you doing with them?"

(sigh)

Anyway, are moms the CEOs?

Well, however it is in your household, here's something you can listen to when you're next taking out the trash or doing the dishes.

It's my newest podcast episode.

My guest and I talk about how mothers are leaders, just like the CEOs of the world.

It's a great episode, very illuminating!

Listen on iTunes or on my "You're Doing Great Mom" website.

Be sure to subscribe and write a review! I'd be very grateful!

Thanks!

— Dr MaryAnne

 

Sometimes you just gotta boogie down, baby

Yesterday's email was all good and heartfelt.

Actually, I felt a little vulnerable there, to be totally honest with you.

A lot of my friends commented on my blog post about being broody by saying,

"Go for it. Have another baby!"

No way.

Anyway, that wasn't the point of the message.

I want to put more energy into my family.

My fun and crazy kids.

My husband.

And all the stress, joy, chaos, and spontaneity about it all!

Time to embrace it more!

I know that in about 30 years I'll be exhaling in joy, so proud and happy that I took this time to be fully present with my brood.

I know it'll all be worth it.

When I first became a mother 11.5 years ago, I had a really hard time going through the change from being such a career-driven woman, in New York City, always thinking about me, me, me, into being a new mother and experiencing such a new reality with a tiny human being.

It was hard.

And really uncomfortable.

I didn't like it.

But I knew in my heart this is what I wanted to do.

Now, I'm overwhelmed with the same drive, the same motivation to make some changes.

Change.

Some very physical and concrete: a huge house renovation, which will require us to move out temporarily so the builders can get in there and get it done.

We'll be living in a small flat during this time.

The five of us.

What could go wrong?

Five very big and loud people who like to demand space and their presence to be known.

I find myself stepping into a familiar feeling of discomfort.

I'm really uncomfortable.

And I'm not liking it.

Thoughts of doubt are creeping in. 

Thinking of the unknown.

How am I going to get through this?

The feeling of instability is very scary.

It's like a huge stretch and I don't think I can bend anymore.

Still, I'm standing my ground, remembering my purpose, my love for my kids, and how this time will bring me to a new place of freedom and joy in my life because I know it's what I want.

And that's the key. 

I WANT so many things in life, and sometimes to get there, to be that person, well, it takes a little instability and stretching along the way.

So I stick to what I know works best for me.

Eating well.

Sleeping well.

Exercising regularly.

Getting adjusted every week.

Creating my structure and sticking to it.

Choosing to do things that make me happy, and not feel guilty about it.

And, for me, it also doesn't hurt to have a nice glass of red wine every now and then.

Today, I've spent a big chunk of time doing things for my practice (like writing this to you guys).

Admin.

Organising notes.

And in between my thoughts I've been pausing to blast some good tunes, get up, and dance for 10 minutes just to get the blood to flow.

It feels good.

Gotta keep following my heart and passion. Stay on the path!

See you soon at your next adjustment!

Stay on YOUR path!

— Dr MaryAnne




 

Get naked.

You know how children love running around naked when it's sunny outside?

Actually, if allowed, kids would simply rather be naked anywhere. 

They just don't have that filter set in by social standards.

Even my 11-year-old seems not to have this filter fully set in yet.

There comes a time eventually that we lose the art of loving nudity, loving our bodies.

Stay with me here.

The other day walking through Brixton (a very busy area in London) I saw a woman who looked totally depressed, angry, and miserable.

Her posture was horrible, she looked like she hadn't showered in a few days, and her body was out of shape by about 30 kilos (66 pounds)

I suddenly got all existentialist and thought,

"What happened to this woman? Why is she like this? What in her life lead her to this point?"

And then strangely, I thought about what her spine looked like and how it directly reflected what her life is like.

It's like I had x-ray vision.

Sometimes I feel like I have x-ray vision.

Yes, that's my secret.

I can see through your clothes.

I can see your naked body.

Like Superman and Supergirl.

(Why is she not called Superwoman?)

They have x-ray vision.

I think I do too.

Seriously though, when was the last time you took a good hard look at your naked body and felt carefree about it, just like when you were a little kid?

I wonder, when was the last time that miserable woman inspected her naked body?

Her posture?

Her health?

It saddens me to know that people can get to this state, to neglect their health and their bodies.

Because when you neglect your body, you're definitely not going to look at yourself naked in the mirror.

Are you?

And you're just not gonna care about your health.

My theory is that if you just start paying attention to your body, your naked body, by standing in front of a full length mirror and inspecting your posture, the way you stand, the way your shoulders slouch and the way your butt sags and tucks in, you're gonna notice some things that need changing.

If you pay attention and become more aware of your posture, especially when you're naked, you're more likely to do something about it.

Right?

Listen, I'm not saying you need to get into ship-shape, and look like Arnold Schwarzenegger, or Cindy Crawford.

I'm not even expecting you to like what you see in the mirror. 

We all have flaws.

Nobody's perfect.

Not even Cindy Crawford.

But you have to start somewhere.

Pay attention to your body.

Get naked.

And then do a dance.

Shake that naked booty!

Start taking care of it too!

See you at your next adjustment.

— Dr MaryAnne

They think you're stupid

They think you're stupid

No one can decide who you are and what you should do and who you can be. Only you can.

I wanna be a movie star and an astronaut

When I ask my son what he wants to be when he grows up, he usually says,

"I wanna be a YouTuber star, like a movie star. And definitely an astronaut."

Good goals, son.

Easy-peasy, right?

When did that question stop being fun to answer?

For me, it doesn't stop. 

Ever.

Because, actually, thinking like a child, being in the moment, with little or no sense of time, is really the way to view this tough world.

It is rough out there, and sometimes I wish I can literally push the pause button on the clock.

When I was a teenager, there was this American TV show where this girl was half-alien, and she had this one power:

She would touch her two index fingers together and time would just freeze.

Everyone around her would stand still.

Time would stop.

But she wouldn't. 

She could walk around people, tickle them, fart in their face, or whatever.

Time was paused.

Wouldn't that be so cool?

Well, it's highly disappointing, but that power just won't happen.

Instead, I'm thinking about my own way of time travel into the future.

It helps me get through my days now.

You know that sometimes annoying question, "Where do you see yourself in five years? Ten years?"

I know what my answer is, but I think for lots of people, it's not easy to answer.

For me, it's easier to imagine myself two years out.

Basically I imagine how I want my life to be and look like, and then I scale it backwards and visualise what I'd be doing to achieve that.

For example, one of my goals in my career is to start teaching other chiropractors paediatric adjusting. I have to train more for that and it'll take time to organise.

Also, we've always had plans to renovate our house. I have many desires for my beautiful newly renovated kitchen, and as many Londoners know, getting a house worked on is no joke.

There are so many steps to take with that!

These are just two clear examples, and there are many more, but you get my drift.

I'm very certain about how I want my life to look like in two years, and for me to have that in place, I know what I need to work on, plan, and get into action with.

One constant regular action step that's always there is getting adjusted.

How about you?

Gotta take care of your health, always.

See you at your next adjustment!

— Dr MaryAnne