The attitude of a 12-year-old
In the parenting world, I'm in what you could call the 'Sweet Spot'.
No more breastfeeding.
No more naps.
They can feed themselves.
They're all in school.
The Sweet Spot.
But, it's not gonna last for long.
My eldest is 12.
And there are more and more moments that reveal themselves to tell me that I'm slowly (not slow enough) coming out of that Sweet Spot.
Teenage attitude has peaked its head out.
And it hits you like, "WHAT WAS THAT?"
And then you go into this denial.
"Oh no no no," you're thinking.
That wasn't really attitude. That was an 'accident'.
But then it happens again.
Three months of this attitude that pops up more and more makes you,
to get a grip and realise that the hormones have taken control.
Am I doomed?
Am I no longer in that Sweet Spot?
Those hormones are just crazy.
Not only does my daughter talk smack,
she knows how to negotiate, argue a good point, challenge my logic, and persist until I say yes.
I admit, she's good.
(She didn't get those skills from me. My husband's the negotiator. Among other things.)
The other thing about hormones is that I've noticed how much her body is changing.
Mostly for the good, but sometimes it's not fun for her.
And I can blame some of it from all the screen/mobile/device usage:
She's been complaining about spinal pain and headaches more frequently.
Before these changes started, I can't even remember her complaining about those things before.
And since her body has entered into that inevitable phase of puberty, she's come to me saying,
"Mom, can you give me an adjustment. My head is hurting a little."
And this week over half-term, she's had a different schedule, doing different things and activities including a lot of travel, and she's been complaining about feeling discomfort in her back.
And tonight I gave her her 3rd adjustment.
Each time she has laid down on the adjusting bench, I've noticed how her body is going through a big growth spurt.
There's so much development going on.
And I can see some things that are new and different too.
So, like I do for everyone else I adjust, I ask things.
This week I asked my daughter, "Are you excited or nervous about going back to school next week?"
Predictably, she answered, "What? Uhhhh, nope. Um I don't know."
She didn't know.
She's not aware enough.
Also, she's a little stubborn about sharing her feelings or insecurities with me.
But that's another issue I'm working on.
Teenagers go through incredible changes, and it's very important to help support their bodies go through them as best as possible.
The wonderful thing about my daughter's changes is that she's aware enough to know that she needs an adjustment.
There are some weeks where I don't adjust her at all.
And then like this past week, she gets three.
Sometimes our children need those boosts.
We as parents, especially as mums, know when our babies are not at 100%.
It's like the light in their eyes is dimmed.
Or they smell different.
Or, they sound differently when they talk to us.
That's when they need an adjustment the most.
Keeping their nervous systems and bodies in alignment and balance is so helpful in allowing them grow into their fullest potential.
To help them continually be their best.
So, if you sense that your child is going through a growth spurt, or some big change, or for any reason, bring them in for an adjustment.
One adjustment for a child goes a looong way.
See you at your next adjustment!
— Dr MaryAnne