One of my good friends seems to be having a mid-life crisis.
... or not.
Whatever it is, I will continue to love her unconditionally through what she's dealing with.
At first I got offended and hurt, with my ego all fluffed up. The feeling sat with me for a day and a half.
I was really really pissed off about it.
But then I realised that this doesn't serve me, it doesn't serve her, and it definitely doesn't do our friendship any good.
She's like a sister to me. I consider her my family. And families stick together when the going gets tough for anyone.
So I choose to stay open in my heart, love her, listen to her, and continue to support her.
I've noticed over the years that when people in our lives go into 'hiding' and stay quiet, don't communicate much, no texts, emails, or phone calls, it's because they are going through something.
A break in anyone's pattern is indication that something's off.
And in my opinion, it's when they need the most compassion, understanding, and love.
Because for the most part, nearly everyone around them will take offence, make it about themselves, take it personally, and then say something like,
"FINE. BE THAT WAY!"
I did that.
But luckily I got over myself pretty fast and realised that I love this friend, and even though she's needing some space, doesn't agree with me, or just feels like she needs some time, I'm not going to let that create this downward spiral of anger, hurt, hostility, and judgement.
Giving people that love, openness, and compassion is what's missing among relationships.
By default, it's always about me, me, me.
"WHAT ABOUT ME?" We scream inside. Like toddlers. ME! ME! ME!
Well, recognising that it's not always about me is the first step.
Getting over myself is the next.
And finally, choosing to love my friend no matter what is an ongoing choice, hoping that she'll get the message.
I wish I could see her soon to give her an adjustment because I know she loves that and it helps!
In the meantime, I know I can adjust you, so better book in and come over for your adjustment!
With love and compassion,